Harding is the first romanceable companion you'll meet in Dragon Age: The Veilguard.
The fact you can romance Harding is exciting for many players, since you could flirt with her in Inquisition but couldn't actually begin a relationship with her.
Like any romance in Dragon Age: The Veilguard, you'll need to take actions that she approves of in order to win her affections. You'll also need to know when to flirt - and when to stop flirting with other people.
Below, we'll explain how to romance Harding, including what Harding likes and dislikes, how to commit to a relationship with her, and how to see her romance scenes.
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You'll automatically meet Harding in the opening parts of the game, as she's an integral part of the team that Rook is building. However, that doesn't mean that she automatically likes you.
Harding will respond to Rook's actions and words like any companion. She typically likes it when Rook is straightforward and decisive, although she also appreciates kind actions and your support during her personal quest.
Taking Harding with you in the first big choice (instead of Neve) will get you a big early bonus to your relationship. But be careful - Harding will get injured during this and doesn't like it if you make a fuss about it. When you return to the Lighthouse and start doing more missions, don't ask her if she's ready to fight. She is!
As with all companions, keeping Harding on your team when you complete missions will raise your bond. This is more geared towards unlocking skills for her, but you want to have her on your team anyway, right? And of course be sure to speak to her in the Lighthouse when you can, as well as progressing her personal quest.
During a mainline quest, Harding will receive strange new powers, and coming to understand this forms the backbone of her personal quest.
Choosing supportive dialogue options, such as calling the powers a 'gift,' is useful for continuing to deepen Harding's affections. It will also open up opportunities to flirt!
You'll be able to begin her personal quest line quite early in the game by starting An Unfamiliar Sense by speaking to Harding in the Lighthouse.
When you're talking to Harding, you'll sometimes get flirt options. These are indicated by a heart icon in the centre of the selection wheel, and usually appear on the left side instead of the regular selections on the right.
You can flirt with other companions alongside Harding, but there will come a point where you are asked to commit to an exclusive relationship. If you do this with anyone else first, you won't be able to romance Harding.
After the main quest Bloodbath, you'll be able to indicate that you are interested in a romance with Harding, although it won't yet lock you out of choosing someone else instead. Harding will talk about finding it difficult to sleep, and the dialogue option to pick is 'Anything I can do to help?'
And in her final personal quest, The Bond Rekindled, you'll be able to commit to an exclusive relationship with Harding. You can do this by telling her 'I won't let it take you' when the option appears in dialogue. (Be careful not to click anything else by accident, as all the other options cut off the romance!)
However, the biggest scene between the two happens during A Fighting Chance, when you catch up with all your companions after some major end-game story events. We'll let you see it for yourself, but don't forget to go and talk to Harding when prompted, otherwise you might miss out.